The main stimulation in being dominant with a partner is control. Women are often times depicted as being weak and in some ways useless so having power over someone is very arousing. There is something about watching your partner writhe helplessly that just rouses me in the right way.

I'm a bit of a switch so I do also enjoy being dominated. I believe the feeling of helplessness is a bit instinctual in women. We were raised to feel guilty and shamed by sexual feelings so we grow up with a subconscious desire for humiliation in sexual contexts, which plays a role in being dominated. I think in both men and women who enjoy being dominated we feel that it is retribution for our naughty desires so when we are restrained and (encouraged) to 'take it' we are secretly enjoying it.

It actually doesn't take much to let someone on top. Despite my domineering personality and kink for authority over my partner during sex I rather enjoy a simple vanilla position like missionary. That's not to say I don't enjoy various other positions as well, I quite like them a lot actually, but I find missionary to be a comfortable position where both my partner and I can really go at it for hours rather than certain positions that only the most professional sexual athletes can master.

I have a huge kink for toys and anal play! Something about the forbidden really gets me in the mood so I usually bring in toys during my sexual adventures. Generally it's impossible for most women to orgasm just from simple intercourse which is why I've grown a special kind of love for bullet vibrators. There is nothing in the world comparable to cumming while your lover is inside of you, your ass is occupied with beads, plug or a finger and your vib is delivering multiple orgasms!!

I love the way latex feels and fits. I'm not shy about my body at all so I really like that latex is the next best thing to being naked. It shows off the curves and tones of the body and it feels really sexy when it's clinging to your skin.

I like corsets because they enhance the waistline and give a very dramatic result. I enjoy wearing them to achieve intense curves and to give me a strong confident posture. I'm also very fond of the lacing and the suggestion behind being bound is very erotic to me.

I really love boots and platform heels. For the most obvious reason is the height which makes one appear more dominant and assertive. Also again I enjoy tight laced items for the bound effect.

Well this applies to anyone who has ever worn a strap on, you all know exactly what I am talking about when I say it's very empowering! It's like the second that thing is strapped on you feel like you have a loaded gun, you are the boss who holds all the authority and every one must obey you or they will get taken from behind ;)

Although I've had the unique pleasure of using it on a few boys I must say it's far more enjoyable to use it on girls because it makes me feel overly empowered that I can offer my female partner not only my feminine presence but also a very masculine form of satisfaction.